A.PROMPTreply was prompted by A Momma’s View to write about what I consider to be the purpose of my life. I was gobsmacked when I first received the challenge. I couldn’t imagine how I could ever write this up. But in thinking about it for a few days, I’ve come up with the following as a way to explain my view.
A few years ago, I read a book by Andy Andrews called, “The Butterfly Effect: How Your Life Matters.” (Let me just say here, if you haven’t read this, you need to. It’s a very quick read at just over 100 pages.)
This book really resonated with me, I think, because ultimately it sums up how I view the world and my place in it. Basically, the book uses historical examples to show how even the smallest of our actions can affect the world for years to come. This is mainly how I live my life now…thinking that even the smallest things I do matter not only now in the interactions I have each day, but very well may impact things down the line.
As a parent, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and/or a friend, I’m not always front-and-center in a given situation. Sometimes, I’m just supporting cast or even stage crew. But even behind the scenes, I add touches here and there, provide care, steer things in different directions, make plans, and keep things moving along. Even when someone I know is tossed one of life’s curve balls, I generally try and find a way to make a difference and add something positive to the situation at hand. It’s my belief that the small touches I contribute make a difference. First, perhaps by teaching someone something new, shouldering a burden with someone, or adding my vehemence to someone else’s quest, my action/response is perceptible at the level it’s given.
After that, the response I made will be reacted on or responded to by someone else who will pass on that response/reaction to the next person with their own level of feeling and so on, and so on. The reactions continue until they reach the place where their impact is most needed/desired/used and a new outcome is demonstrated or path created. Hence, my initial contribution is now in a place I’ll probably never see and yet, the early ripples I created are having impact. This is the butterfly effect.
Of course, this butterfly effect goes both ways….your negative actions also have huge impacts – impacts you may never see but the effects of which could resonate for years. Therefore, it is quite important that we think about our actions and be sure that we’re making good decisions and not just reacting in the heat of the moment. For me, at least, this is always a work in progress.
This is how I live. Me, in my own world doing the things that I do, making the choices I make, influencing the people around me, and understanding that the ripples from my ‘wing flutters’ will be more far-reaching than I’ll ever know is more than enough purpose for me.
Stepping out of my usual form with this one, I would like to tag Joanne Sisco over at My Life Lived Full and Carol over at Which Way Now 101 to take on this challenge. Carol, however, is currently a one-armed blogger so we understand it might be a while before she can get to this. No pressure, Joanne and Carol, but I’d really enjoy hearing what you come up with. I’m sure you’ll both have a MOST interesting take on things!
Juls over at The Indecisive Eejit and Edwina (a.k.a. Judy) over at Edwina’s Episodes both passed on the LOVE/HATE challenge to me. I’m supposed to list 10 things I love and then 10 things I hate and then pass the challenge on.
10 THINGS I LOVE….
1. Spending time with my mother. There are people that don’t realize how short life is and think their parents will always be there. I am not one of those people. My mother is my very best friend…..always has been, always will be.
2. Taking pix. Not only a great way to avoid being in pix, but I just like capturing the world and being able to contain it in nice little squares!
3. Writing. I find it therapeutic, informative at times, and I enjoy hearing how people react to what I write about.
4. Reading. Hardly ever does a day pass when I don’t begin my morning with a little read on my Nook. I love almost any kind of book I can get my hands on but especially love historical fiction and psychological thrillers.
5. Most of you probably already know….I really love snow/winter! Enough said.
6. Planning anything….trips, holidays, parties, you name it – organisation is me!
7. I love it when one of my kids succeeds in something and can take pride in a job well done. 8. I have a big thing about boxes…..Christmas boxes, storage boxes, any sort of box. It’s almost a fetish I’d have to say….I love “containing” things.
9. Helping someone. Definitely something that makes me feel great.
10. I love it when someone takes the time to surprise me with something personal. It’s not an easy thing to surprise me, so it’s doubly nice when it happens.
10 THINGS I HATE:
1. Number one thing on this list has to be not looking like I used to look and not moving like I used to move when I was younger. I keep moving. I do keep trying. But somehow it does keep getting harder. Ugh. 2. Being late. I really try to be early in all things.
3. Injustice – in any way, shape, or form. I want the scales balanced (or tipped to the positive side) at all times.
4. Maths – any of them, all of them. I hate them.
5. Zealots – religious, political, or otherwise. Passion is awesome. Pushy is not. Everyone is entitled to their own views on things – make room for that!
6. Am sorry to say, I have to put museums on this list followed closely by science centres. I just do not like them.
7. Walking into a store where the sales people work on commission and attack you the moment you step across the threshold. Let me be…I’ll find you when I need you. It actually makes me avoid stores when I’m approached like this.
8. Chaos. It’s true that’s all I’ve been living in for the past 2 years, but I don’t like it. I’m much better when I know what’s coming next.
9. Screwing something up. I give 110% to most everything I get involved in so when something goes wrong I know I’m generally just not capable of it. Very depressing.
10. Being misunderstood. I have a certain knack of not putting things out the right way sometimes. I really wish I could avoid doing that because a lot of times people end up with a bad opinion of me when they have misunderstood my true intention.
I’m supposed to pass on this challenge to another 10 people. However, keeping to my usual form, I’m putting out an open invitation to all of you. Write this up. Post it. I want to know what floats your boat and what doesn’t!